Rocker Gene Simmons Says Women Shouldn’t Depend On Men. Feminist Or Faux Pas?


We have a sneaking suspicion that K.I.S.S rocker Gene Simmons is a fan of Destiny’s Child 2000 hit ‘Independent Woman’. Why? Because in his new book called Me, Inc.: Build an Army of One, Unleash Your Inner Rock God, Win in Life and Business, he talks about the importance of women not depending on men for their future or well-being, a la the lyrics Beyonce, Michelle and Kelly sung about.

Being the rock legend that he is, causing controversy is normal for him, but this time we think he has some pretty valuable things to say that kind fall in line with some feminist leanings.

We here are GTHQ are all about equality, women having the same opportunities in life as men, and not being excluded on the basis of gender. We like to promote messages that urge women to be creative, strong, powerful, educated and become women who live their live with passion.

So when we heard what Gene had to say, while it will definitely anger a lot of women (especially stay-at-home moms) he has some very good points.

In an interview with Fox News he explains in more depth why he dedicated a whole chapter in his book to talking about why women should prioritize having their own financial independence first, rather than just jumping to have a family.

“Women should assume men will abandon them and thus devote their early lives to making money to support themselves,” he said. It’s a pretty bold statement which he says he makes based on the facts about divorce today.


According to the American Psychological Association, 40-50% of marriages in the US end in divorce. Is that something to keep in mind when planning out your future? Gene Simmons says yes. He likens his statement to a car. All cars come with 5 tires, because there is the assumption that one of them is going to blow up at one point, so you have the spare tire just in case.

Sure it is a bit of a crude example, but you get the gist of what he is saying.

“The less you depend on a man for emotional and financial support the better off you will be,” he says.

His view is that women should concentrate on establishing themselves financially first so that they bring children into the world from a place of stability. Ideally that is something we all want, right? Sometimes unfortunately it doesn’t end up like that.

Gene goes on to say “assume the worst” that the man is going to run out on you, so devote those early years to your career. He says “you can’t have it both ways” because a career is time consuming, and so is raising a family. The issue of “having it all” is a current debate, especially with the rise of Sheryl Sandberg’s ‘Lean In’ movement and the greater visibility of women like Yahoo CEO Marissa Mayer who was 6 months pregnant when she started her job.

But for the majority of us who don’t have the luxuries and help that a high-powered tech CEO does, we do have to prioritize and try to juggle our lives as best we can.


And before you think he doesn’t respect stay-at-home moms, that couldn’t be further from the truth. He says being a housewife and mother is “respectable and wonderful” but going back to his earlier point, if you are at SAHM and your husband leaves, are you in a stable position to look after yourself and your kids financially?

“This is a very complex and difficult question to answer so I’m going to put it as simply as possible. Women: Stop depending on men. It’s as simple as that. Imagine there are no men in life. Find out that thing that you’re good for that makes the money and then get married and or have children from a position of strength.”

His point is that if men don’t depend on women for anything, why should women depend on men?

OK GTHQ readers, what are your thoughts on his statements? Are they misguided, or do you think he has some valuable insight?

While we don’t necessarily like the message “prepare for the worst” as we believe it can hinder us from living a happy and fulfilled life, we absolutely 100% agree that women should be able to make every big life decision from a position of strength. if that means becoming an entrepreneur early and having kids later, do it! If it means you want to devote your life to only being a stay-at-home mom who home-schools her children, be empowered to do that to the best of your ability.

The truth is, we all get hurt by people and none of us, whether male or female, want to be left in the lurch by our partners. But it happens, and we need to be sure we are equipped and have made the right decision for us, not just because society, school, parents or a huge rock star told us to.

Check out the first 5 minutes of the video below to hear what Gene had to say about why women need to make their own money and not depend on men for anything:


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