Melissa McCarthy, The Oscars, And The Fashion Industry’s Faux Pas

MELISSA-MCCARTHY

Hey good job fashion industry! You’ve done it again, proved that there are some inherent things wrong with you which need to be changed, and which people aren’t afraid of speaking up about anymore.

Actress Melissa McCarthy made a startling revelation in a recent interview with Redbook Magazine, and her comment went viral, leaving a lot of us annoyed, even though it happened a couple of years ago.

“Two Oscars ago, I couldn’t find anybody to do a dress for me. I asked five or six designers—very high-level ones who make lots of dresses for people—and they all said no.”

This is why she is designing her own plus-size range, because if an A-list actress can’t get Hollywood’s top stylists or designers to dress her for the biggest night in the film industry, then the rest of us average folk are doomed.

I can just imagine the scene, similar to the ‘Pretty Woman’ scene where Julia Roberts walks into a high class Beverly Hills boutique, armed with a buttload of cash (thanks to sugar daddy Richard Gere) and is told to leave the store because they don’t want to serve her, based on her appearance. That’s the crux of what I’m trying to articulate here. That a story like this just reiterates how much a woman is valued (or not) for her appearance.

I bet if John Goodman asked any of the best designers in town to dress him for the Oscars, he would NEVER be turned down.

Clearly it mustn’t have bothered Melissa too much because her usual hilarious quips were present in the rest of the Redbook interview.

it just really bothers me that when a story like this surfaces, it seems to push women’s advancement back 1000 years! Haven’t we gotten over the fact that this is 2014 and women come in all shapes and sizes, yes even in Hollywood? Melissa has played the lead role in some pretty major blockbuster films: ‘Bridesmaids’ (duh!) ‘The Heat’, and ‘Identity Thief’. Let’s not forget she is the star of her own sitcom ‘Mike and Molly’.

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It’s as if Melissa’s body is an “acquired taste” rather than just another woman’s body to accept and appreciate. Remember the Elle magazine cover controversy? Everyone was up in arms about it because they thought the fashion mag had made her wear an over-sized trench coat to cover up her body. It wasn’t the case at all, but it just reiterated what a point of contention and controversy a plus size woman’s body is.

I sincerely hope there will come a day when we don’t have to point out in the media whether a woman fits into either the “plus size” category, or the “everything else/normal” category. All the young girls growing up struggling with weight issues, desperately looking for a mirror representation in the media they consume on a daily basis thankfully have strong women like Melissa who don’t even pay attention to the body hate she sometimes gets.

It’s not as if she is about to lose weight any time soon to suit anyone, or any industry, and that is what is the coolest thing about her, and what makes the loudest statement. Just the way she is going about dealing with all this nonsense sends a clear message to young women everywhere: don’t change who you are to please someone else, or to try and “fit in”.

We can’t change the entire world’s way of thinking and how they place more importance on physical appearance in a woman than a man (thanks media for continually perpetuating this way of thinking!) but we have to choose to stand against it and not be afraid to be the weird or odd one out.

Spike TV just held their annual ‘Guy’s Choice Awards’ in Hollywood, and for the first time the ‘Most Desirable Woman’ award was implemented into the program. Guess who won? Rihanna. Why? Because she wore a see-through dress baring her nipples and everything else at the recent CFDA awards and got tongues wagging everywhere.

Guess who the other nominees were? A whole bunch of female celebs who are skinny, pretty and have big boobs. And it wasn’t just that award that focused solely on the external.

“The ‘Most Desirable Woman’ award is a deeply exciting addition to the line-up of awards that included Decade of Hotness, Holy Grail of Hot, and Our New Girlfriend,” writes the Daily Mail sarcastically about the award ceremony.

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What these awards essentially tell all women everywhere is that if they want to be liked by men they have to be hot. They don’t care about your personality, achievements, or your intelligence. Nope, it’s about the looks.

I thought this award show perfectly showed what is wrong with the media, right at the same time Melissa made that comment. On the bright side, thanks to her awesome personality and high-level of confidence, it made her design her own range of plus size clothing, making her an advocate for many other women who are sick of not being catered to at their fave clothing store.

While I don’t like to make a habit of ranting about an issue that everyone already knows about, I do think it is important to challenge the status quo, question why things are the way they are, and encourage others to do the same. You will be surprised at the amount of people who would never think of questioning these standards we are taught from a young age.

I have argued with my boyfriend many times about the fashion industry (he is a photographer and works a lot in fashion) and when I say things such as “magazines should put more curvy and diverse women in their pages and advertisements” his response is sadly “that’s just the way it is, that’s what sells”.

I don’t blame him for not being able to think a little deeper and question why he too thinks the industry just “is the way it is” without thinking that it can be changed.

The takeaway from this piece is that just because there is a standard in place, doesn’t make it right, and doesn’t mean it cannot be changed. I want to one day live in a world where women are valued for more than just their physical beauty. I want my future daughter, granddaughter, and great granddaughter to look at me and call me the crazy old woman who fought for women’s rights and equality, because the world they will hopefully live in will be one where it is everywhere.

Until then, yes I will keep fighting, and questioning, and challenging these pre-conceived notions of “normal” and pre-designed categories that we are taught to fit in. To use a ‘Divergent’ analogy, if it means that I can have the freedom to embrace myself and live a life of confidence, I’d much rather be factionless, than be part of a society that molds me to become what it says I should.

Who’s with me?

 

 

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8 Comments

  1. cheryldelp says:

    Me! I’m with you on this issue!

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