Emma Stone Says Women Who Shame Themselves & Each Other Suck!

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Emma Stone, Hollywood Actress and our new girl crush/feminist hero! This fiery red-head is currently promoting her latest movie ‘Spiderman’ with her on-screen and off-screen boyfriend, Andrew Garfield. Her endless press commitments around the world has meant plenty of press pics and outfit changes. Along with that comes scrutiny and comments about body image, because…the internet.

In an interview with Donn Freydkin from USA Today, the 25 year old Arizona native talks about some negativity she has gotten recently, from people accusing her of starving herself. Here we go, the body shaming stuff again. C’mon people, aren’t we over this tiresome trend already?!?! Apparently not, but don’t worry fellow femmes, Emma had her razor sharp comebacks prepared, and also decided to shut down negative body image talk about her good (or at least for a little while!).

Apparently the comments written about her weight have affected her a little and she decided to use the interview as an opportunity to address it.

“I firmly believe that nothing really affects you or can really bother you if you don’t already feel that way about yourself. I’ve seen a lot of comments that say, ‘Eat a sandwich’ or ‘She looks sick.’ I’ve been looking at myself in the mirror being mean to myself. I’m not sick. I eat sandwiches,” she said.

It’s a sad culture we live in when that becomes the focus of what some people put out there on the internet. We like to call them body bullies, others would label them cyber bullies. Either way. it’s a pathetic display of how women are treated publicly. Did anyone comment on whether Andrew Garfield has lost or gained weight?

“It is not my intention to be a bad example. That has been kind of bothering me lately. I’ve shamed myself for it. We shame each other online. We’re always too skinny or too fat or too tall or too short. They’re just confirming this feeling I have about myself,” she goes on to say.

“I’m trying to figure my body out. It bothers me because I care so much about young girls. We’re shaming each other and we’re shaming ourselves, and it sucks.”

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Emma says the best way she can combat this gossip-y talk from her life, is to start with herself and live out the example she wants to see in others.

“When I make a comment about someone or I choose to gossip about someone and speculate about their body or their life or their face, it’s usually a reflection of something I’m feeling myself. That has become ingrained in me. I’m trying to eliminate gossip from my own life,” she says.

In an interview with Seventeen Magazine, Emma expands on her thoughts a little more, demonstrating she is sick of the bad representations of women in the media. It can be hard to deal with negative comments but she is determined not to play into it.

“I’m actively working hard on learning to appreciate yourself no matter what. If what someone else says can easily derail you, it means your sense of self isn’t that firmly established in the first place. It’s an inside job. You’re beautiful and worthy and totally unique. People insult each other based on their own insecurities—even though it may feel personal, it really never is.”

Speaking on the topic of confidence, Emma says hers comes from a place of respecting and being kind to herself, despite what others may say.

“It can be really challenging in today’s world for anyone—especially girls and women—to feel good about their bodies. No matter how things look from the outside, we can all be super critical of ourselves and of our image in the mirror. I’ve seen articles or comments that have addressed my weight, or ‘caving to pressure to be thin,’ ” she says.

“So when completely untrue statements are made about me or my health, of course a part of me wants to defend. Thing is, people have a right to imagine what they want to imagine. My job at those moments is to tell myself the truth. Am I taking care of myself in a healthy way? Am I respecting myself and being responsible? And over and over, I answer yes to that question.”

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She says staying true to yourself and not comparing yourself with others is a great start to finding that confidence.

“The best advice I ever got was: ‘stay irrepressibly true to yourself and be tenacious about finding ways to manifest the truest form of you.’ We’re all meant to be here, and we all have completely unique perspectives and personalities and stories worth sharing. For me, it’s important to never forget that. There’s no use in comparing yourself to anybody else.”

Another reason why we love this flame-haired beauty, is that she is an advocate of females supporting each other instead of trying to categorize and isolate our gender.

“My great hope for us as young women is to start being kinder to ourselves so that we can be kinder to each other. To stop shaming ourselves and other people for things we don’t know the full story on—whether someone is too fat, too skinny, too short, too tall, too loud, too quiet, too anything. There’s a sense that we’re all ‘too’ something, and we’re all not enough,” she says.

“This is life. Our bodies change. Our minds change. Our hearts change. Things are always evolving. I hope we can be supportive of each other and try to really have each other’s backs, especially when we don’t know the whole story.”

Emma says she has plenty of role models, but it is a group of specific personality traits which inspire her, rather than a career choice.

“I’m inspired every time I see or meet somebody who’s living life on their own terms. People who break the rules, make mistakes, are curious, and who choose to grow up and evolve. People who spend their time talking about ideas and dreams instead of gossiping. People who find the humor in everything. People that are afraid and do it anyway. People who are brassy and loud and bold, or quiet and thoughtful and gentle. And most of all, people who refuse to ever stop learning.”

Whether it is a film she is spruiking, talking about body image, her love life or anything, we love Emma’s refreshing honesty that she is a work in progress, but wants to set a good example.

“I’m still finding my footing and figuring out what it really is that makes me the happiest,” she says. We’re hardcore crushing on this Hollywood beauty!

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13 Comments

  1. Emma is Awesome for this!

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