By Gloria Kopp
Let me take you back to a time not so long ago, to a place not that far away. I was a smart, pretty young lady – in fact, surprisingly smart for how pretty I was; at least that’s what I heard over and over like a broken Milli Vanilli record, although I never did see the connection between the two. It was like your DNA had to make a choice during your creation – do we want to take the Pretty Princess gene or the Smarty Pants gene?
Anyway, it was at that time that I got this crazy idea – I wanted to be my own boss, start my own business. I loved writing, after all, and I didn’t want the stress of having to work for someone else. It was when I started to voice my dreams and goals that I began to learn more than I ever imagined I would about my new life and role I was undertaking as a female entrepreneur.
When I first set up my writing service, I was met with a lot of “cute” comments. It was “really cute” or “so sweet” that I started my own ‘little business’. I half smiled away the comments at first, and tried to ‘un-cute’ myself. No more polkadot prints or pink lipstick for me. I was all business now. But tweed pant suits and matching brown lipstick wasn’t who I was. I liked my leopard print skirts and bows in my hair. I was cute, so what? That didn’t mean I wasn’t fierce! And you know what happened? I owned my cuteness and it helped set me apart from the rest of the crowd.
At the same time, I also came to terms with something that had been bugging me for a while. If my genes were able to choose between my beauty and my brains, why didn’t they just make things super easy for me and make me a man to begin with? This whole woman entrepreneur thing was tough, and it would be so much easier if I just had a different set of equipment altogether. But in embracing my cuteness, I also started accepting my femininity. I had a unique perspective on things that my male counterparts just couldn’t, and never would understand.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I was cute for sure. But inside of me was a shrewd, sexy shark, who wasn’t afraid to speak up for herself and tell it like it is. Some would say it’s bossiness… I would say it was my inner b!t*#, and when I was able to embrace her, and use her powers for good, when needed, things got a lot easier. And, it became known that I was not to be pushed around. Yes, I was cute and kind, but I was also no pushover.
You see, I truly believe that there’s nothing that will stop a woman who knows exactly what she wants and is determined to get it. You may knock me down, but I’ll always get back up. And, I never take my eyes off of my end game.
And, I realized that there’s really no situation, no matter how bad it may seem, that I can’t handle. I felt indestructible, invincible, like nothing could stop me or hurt be – I did push another human being out of me… twice, and I got through that, so why couldn’t I get through anything else?
But, there were times that I did struggle. I did need to seek out help from others. And, that’s OK. It’s always OK to ask for help when you need it – just don’t be helpless. We’ve all heard fairytales of the damsel in distress, waiting helplessly for the hero to come along and save her. Don’t wait for someone to swoop in and save you – if you need help, go out and get it, but be a part of the solution also.
One of the most important things I learned throughout this whole process of starting my business and growing it into what it is today is that I always need to remember to keep my friends by my side – they may not always be there physically, but I never let them get far out of my mind or far out of my life. Even a quick call or text to let them know you’re thinking about them can keep that special connection.
A random letter or card sent in the mail is a uniquely special way of showing them how important they are to you. Don’t forget about them either while you’re busy building your business or after you’ve found the success you’ve been looking for – they’ll keep you grounded through everything, they’ll be your shoulder to cry on, they’ll be your cheerleaders – and most importantly, they’ll keep the wine flowing and tell you when you’ve got pretty pink lipstick on your teeth!
Gloria Kopp is a web content writer and an elearning consultant from Manville city. She is a CMO at Essayroo writing service, and is a part-time consultant at Australian Help portal. Besides, she is a regular blog contributor to such websites as Studydemic, HuffingtonPost, Engadget, Boomessays, and more.